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All True Wealth Is Biological

January 2, 2015

Hi All,


It was something of a shit of a year last year. Such that I was very glad to see the arse end of it. Between working for 6 months for no income and then the closure of the start up I was involved in, though to the break up of my relationship, its been a bit tough. I’m still working through the process and coming to terms with the changes. Living within now very meager means, and collecting rejection emails from job hunting is just additional icing on the cake. Yay. Not.

On the plus side, my ex and I are very amicable about it, though we still disagree hugely about how to deal with the behaviors of her two older kids. And I’m still very heavily involved with the wee man and see him nearly every day, though budget and (when I finally get some) work will put a bit of a kibosh on that.

The girl and I talked about New Years resolutions, and I didn’t have any. More some aspirations. Job, a little home, hopefully not too far away, and one with a spare room so that I can have the wee man overnight on a regular basis. Need to stay put for a while though to build up the reserves. And in any case, until we both know whats happening, it’s very hard to make any sort of plans.

But what has really been brought home to me has been the kindness of family. None of us are particularly materialistic. A roof over our heads, food on the table, happy children is all we need. We’ve not come from money, and what we do have is shared in times of need. While I’ve never needed to stick my hand out, just to know that that is there is hugely comforting. I also need to thank my friends too. For their support and willingness to help.

In some respects, this is a time for introspection and some decisions about where to next. I’ve rolled the dice a few times in my life and gone and done something completely different more than once. It teaches you resilience. It teaches you tenacity. And it certainly helps to know that, when the chips are down, you can believe in yourself to get what needs to be done, done.

I’m examining many different aspects of my life at present, including the gaming. In all honesty, I’m not enjoying things hugely at present. EvE and LOTRO are being played more out of habit than actually any real desire to do so. It’s not bittervettedness, more of an unwillingness to waste time grinding any more. Budgetary constraints too are a consideration.

I may sell off an alt or two and reduce my accounts. Another possibility is to offer my industrial capabilities out to other people, provided they are willing to do the logistics behind it i.e move the materials and end products and I’ll log in and set up the jobs. A much smaller investment in RL time.

In any case, I am looking forward to what 2015 might bring. It is a very heartwarming thing to know that peeps do have my back (and that I have theirs). Lois McMaster Bujold wrote that all true wealth is biological. And, damn, ain’t it true.


Travel safe,



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  1. I had not realised the scope of your trials and tribulations in 2014. For what it is worth, I hope you manage to appreciate the positives and wisdom gained from the year, and that 2015 treats you better.

    I was thinking about why I play EVE just the other day. Habit was one of the thoughts – before I re-settled again on it being a needed distraction.

    • The tribulations are the results of circumstance and my decisions, so there’s not too much point in bemoaning them. And in any case, there are others out there who have had worse… C’est la vie, really…

      Thanks for the thoughts though Hermit. Appreciate it.

  2. Toka permalink

    Hang in there dude.
    Wishing you a very happy new year and here’s hoping 2015 is a better year for you šŸ™‚

  3. TurAmarth permalink

    I was considering just such a post myself… I too am heading into my 2nd big split.. I feel for ya man… I really do. My first marriage was 20 years long with no kids so hard but not ugly and this one made it 11 years but we have an 11yo dottir together and I have a 12yo son from a prior relationship. This is one of the hardest things I have ever faced due to my kids and my fears and worries for them. Plus my wife has kids of her own, but here we are talking a 31yo son, 29yo dottir and 27 yo son (former Marine now college student) who got me into EVE and is also my CEO in HBHI and one of my closest friends… and absolutely the best son any man could wish for.

    And I too have friends who have reached out and such (no family though, parents passed and sibs are very far away etc.) so I too am grateful yet quite melancholy at times…

    I too had been out of work recently, and unable to find any which has been rare for me, for 7 months… then something I hope and pray happens for you… I landed my dream job 2 months ago. I have been an IT Contractor for 17 years… so damn sick and tired of being pre-fired I can’t begin to tell you… but this job landed in my inbox from Craigslist of all virtual places… and it was straight to full time with full bennies and an amazingly tightknit group.

    So I am now looking to find a small place after the holidays, something where I can build a new life and have time with my soon to be teens… and the older kids I am so close to.

    On a weird note… out of the 8 of us in my group at work, I was the only long term EVE player though we did have quite a few gamers and one who had even been playing EVE solo on and off, though mostly off… but the rest mostly play WoW and it’s many variants. Now though, it seems I am in the process of an unintentional and unplanned takeover of my RL corps IT Dept… 4 of the 7 (not including me) and one IT Director over in the Corp HQ are now, or will be soon, flying the deadly skies of New Eden… and one (the son of the afore mentioned IT Director… Yikes!!) has actually joined us in the hole… life is so weird.

    So here is wishing you the best of the season and may you have the very best that life can bring to you and yours… and a strong wind at your back and clear skies ahead… Cheers my friend!

    • Hi Tur – thanks man. They say good things happen to good people… but it would be nice for it to happen just a leeeeeetle quicker šŸ™‚

      Good luck with your situation too. Take care bud.

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